Friday, 25 August 2017

Life As I Knew It

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I'm currently writing a bunch of motivation letters to send along with my resumé in the next few days. The list of places I'm applying to is pretty small right now - and will hopefully stay this way -, but I've got a good feeling about this whole internship situation. Everything could go wrong and I would still have a plan Z, but for now I'm focusing on my priorities and exploring every possibility. I hope I can brag about getting a cool job soon; that would definitely be a good sign.

Whilst writing and rewriting these letters, I started thinking about all those years I spent studying since I was a child. I don't regret many things, but I wish I could go back and tell my fifteen year old self to just chill out. I was never unnecessarily obsessed with my grades and I had some fun during high school and middle school, but I was constantly trying to please and impress everyone. I didn't want people to like me just for the sake of it, but I had this need to be understood, in a way. Many were the times when I forgot my own values and opinions, regardless of how wrong or ridiculous they were at the time, just to feel like I could fit in.

University was much less of a lie. I carried myself in an unapologetic way and I didn't try to be cooler in order to impress professors or classmates. I became more confident in the way I interacted with others. I was always focused on my work - or my own personal dramas, but regardless, I didn't have the time to care much about other people's lives or opinions -, and I learned a lot that way. It was the perfect time for me to be a little selfish and really think about what I wanted in life, and also how I got to say goodbye to a more childish, dramatic version of myself. I had my share of therapy sessions as well, which were essential for me to get through some issues and my whole senior year. I'm more patient now, more calm.

Just like with most introspections, I didn't start writing this post with a specific message in mind but I enjoy reflecting on the past. I'm far from knowing "who I am" and there are many things that I do which I still can't understand, but I am my own favorite subject to think about and study. Similar to what happened when I went to university, I am still not certain of how my next occupation is going to shape me, and which lessons it is going to teach me. But I am definitely curious.

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  1. Gosto muito da tua abordagem à vida académica. Eu sempre me esforcei por ter notas muito altas, mas a minha atitude sempre foi muito semelhante à tua: sempre tive tempo para me divertir e fazer coisas para além da escola/faculdade e desde cedo que me habituei a não tentar agradar a ninguém.

    Enquanto lia o teu post dei por mim a pensar em como o teu inglês é incrível e como em tantos posts nunca reparei em erros ou frases pouco claras, é incrível :)

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  2. Great post! Writing motivation letter is actually a hard job where we have to kind of tell who we are even if we don't really know! I don't blame you because we are a bunch of people like that! Hope you'll find the right job for you :)

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  3. Thar's the mystery of life...not knowing. If only we had a road map..or directions so we can make the right choices. Good luck in all things you do.

    -Lena
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  4. R: Acredito, é realmente muito triste vermos coisas que são belas a desaparecer em horas.

    (Não sou nada boa a escrever e a falar inglês, tenho urgentemente de tentar perceber mais, mas espero ter percebido alguma coisa do que escreveste)
    Relativamente a este texto, nunca devemos tentar agradar a ninguém e devemos sempre ser nós e fazermos as coisas que queremos e são boas para nós. Espero que tenhas um grande futuro. Um beijinho :)

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  5. You'll figure it out eventually...or maybe not! "Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans", right? Good luck on your applications :)

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  6. Great post! I think that so many of us spend our childhood trying to please others! Writing motivation letters isn't an easy task, but it's good you're focusing on your priorities!
    Julia x
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  7. You will find your dream job ☺
    Good luck😘
    Regards
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  8. good luck! internships/finding a job can be daunting but with motivation and hard work anything is possible :)

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  9. Amazing post!
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    Have a nice day!
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  10. Tenho a certeza que em muito pouco tempo vais ter um emprego top <3 até lá é manter a calma, sempre!
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  11. E é exatamente essa atitude curiosa que deves manter, já que é também ela que te ajuda a receber o futuro de braços abertos, ter planos de reserva e progredir. Tenho a certeza de que, independentemente do que aconteça, vais tirar o melhor partido.
    Para além disso, acho completamente normal o que aconteceu no teu percurso. Porém, ainda bem que descobriste quem és e consegues ser mais TU agora. Há muita gente com a tua idade - e mais velha, até - que ainda não conquistou tal feito.
    Beijinho*

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  12. Beautiful words. Good luck on your job hunt.

    Deedee

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  13. Good luck on the job hunt girl! I think it's such a great idea that you're writing these letters - hope it works out for you!

    xo,

    H

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  14. Boa sorte, isso se chama maturidade. Você passou a pensar um pouco mais com sua própria cabeça e isso não é egoísmo é amor próprio.

    Charme-se

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  15. I really hope the job hunt goes well for you! It sounds like you're on a great path.

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  16. Por vezes temos de pensar mais em nós, decerto que vais encontrar o teu emprego brevemente e triunfar
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  17. Tens um inglês e escrita tão perfeita que até doí! Sei que és uma vencedora e o que estiver para vir será muito bom, nem que leve o seu tempo! beijoca
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  18. Logo mais um emprego aparece, boa sorte!
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  19. Acho que estas reflexões são pertinentes especialmente em alturas como esta, neste momento decisivo da tua vida. Espero mesmo que o futuro te traga aprendizagens e que corresponda às tuas expectativas. ♡

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  20. Good luck with your internships, I'm sure you'll get on in no time hun xx

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  21. I love these kinds of posts you are writing- it's so relatable and I completely understand and agree with everything you said. In university, you have this freedom to really explore what you like and I think that's why people are less worried about how they come across - they are in it for them rather than being forced into doing subjects they don't enjoy.

    I love hearing your thoughts <3

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  22. Ainda bem que assim foi!! Desejo-te a maior das sortes para esta nova fase da tua vida e que também te tragam aprendizagens tão importantes como esta
    ps: big yes para mais publicações como esta

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  23. I'm sure you will be able to brag about the cool job you got soon enough :). And yeah, totally getting you. Wish we could go back in time and tell our younger selves to change some things in the past. Sometimes we can stress too much about insignificant things. Wishing you a great day. xx

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  24. Love that you marched to the beat of your own drum and didn't take too much stock in what other people thought of you. So much energy is wasted on this.

    xx Yasmin
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  25. I find so much solace in this and find so much of myself. I wish I could tell my 16 year old self to chill out!

    x,
    Chanel | Je M'appelle Chanel

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  26. Your texts are really good =) I love reading them! Good luck on your new journey! I'm sure your new path will be incredible.


    beijinhos
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  27. Good luck with the job hunt! I always love your writing style and imagery, and this post is no exception x

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  28. Good luck witht eh job serach! I hope you find the perfect role for you!

    It's good you're taking on a new phase of your life and excited about what you will learn - sometimes you don't see what the benefits of a situation were until you reflect back on it, but going into it with eyes open will help you get the benefits early on! :)


    Hope you have a wonderful weekend ahead of you :)

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  29. Vais sempre retirar aspetos positivos do que vier. Enjoy.

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  30. me ha gustado mucho este post, muy bonito, please, no links in comments my blog. thanks

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  31. loving the introspective posts and writing style, is it possible that you sound wiser and more mature since you graduated? :P this post really hit home as I had the exact same journey of trying to fit in (I had so many cool friends back in highschool) and finding a new me during college. I am sure that dreamy internship will come along soon if not already and you will kill it, Marta! Happy September, dear

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  32. Wide leg trousers are also on my fall wish list.
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  33. great post! i love it:)

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